I have always been amazed at how little praise, appreciation, encouragement and recognition we show each other in our professional and personal relationships. Years ago I read a study that showed that employees ranked regular public acknowledgements of a job well done ahead of time off, a bigger office or free lunches as motivation to work hard.
It takes so little in time and cost from the sender and means so much in morale boost to the receiver to be told how well they did something, how good they look, how smart their idea is, etc. I like to massage someone’s ego partly because knowing I’m doing that good deed massages my ego. It’s sort of a two-for-the-price-of-one good feeling.
The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
I have yet to find the people, whatever their situation in life, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than they would ever do under a spirit of criticism.
Flatter me and I may not believe you.
Criticize me and I may not like you.
Ignore me and I may not forgive you.
Encourage me and I will not forget you.
One of the greatest gifts you can give another….is the purity of your attention.
Sharp, critical words erect walls between people.
Words of encouragement and appreciation build bridges.
The spirited horse, which will try to win the race of its own accord,
will run even faster if encouraged.
Listen with your full attention.
Look for the good in others.
Have a sense of humor.
Say thank you for a job well done!
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a considerate action, a listening ear, an honest compliment, a “way to go” or a pat on the back….all of which have the potential to turn someone’s day or life around.
The biggest disservice we render to ourselves and to others is when we feel inclined to compliment or recognize or encourage someone….and then remain silent.
The happiest moments my heart knows
are those in which it is pouring forth its
affections to a few esteemed characters.
Be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
….as you are about your own.
Appreciation can make a day….even change a life.
Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.
We live by encouragement and die without it....slowly, sadly and angrily.
The things that get rewarded get done.
Michael Le Boeuf
To love someone deeply gives you strength.
Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.
I not only want to be loved….I want to be told that I am loved.