The Wisdoms Project


In the previous chapter/topic on  “Recognition,” I comment (read: complain) about how often we fail to take the opportunity to boost someone's morale and ego by simply recognizing a job well done and saying so to that person.  Please now bear with me for another moment while I discuss a related matter.

     Not recognizing someone's efforts is a missed opportunity to do something smart and nice.  (Please see the “Recognition” topic for fifteen reasons why.)  Not saying “Thank You” is simply dumb and bad manners.  Dumb because you miss an opportunity to create a better reception for yourself in the future....and bad manners because it's just bad manners.  It paints you as boorish, poorly-raised and disrespectful.

     We usually say “Thank You” to those involved for the big things....getting a job, getting an award, getting a gift.  But, what about the little, everyday having the door held for you, being let into traffic, having someone pass the salt, etcetera, etcetera. Saying “Thank You” is so quick and easy....and more of it will make us all gentler souls.  For considering this, I say thank you.

Gratitude is the most exquisite form of courtesy.
                            Jacques Maritain

Silent gratitude isn't very much use to anyone.
                            Gertrude Stein


Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
                            William Arthur Ward

Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos into order, confusion into clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Gratitude honors our past, brings peace to the present and creates a vision for the future.
                            Melody Beattie

When you practice gratefulness, there is a sense of respect toward others.
                            Dalai Lama

Gratitude is the sign of a noble soul.

No one who achieves success does so without acknowledging the help of others.  The wise and confident acknowledge this help with expressed gratitude.
                            Alfred North Whitehead

There is hardly any personal defect which an agreeable manner might not gradually reconcile one to.
                            Jane Austen

Good manners may open doors that the best education may not.
                            Clarence Thomas

It is wise to apply the oil of refined politeness to the mechanisms of friendship.

You have 86,400 seconds today.  Why not use a half dozen of them to say “Thank You”?!