I’m a one-on-one type of guy. I prefer small groups to large ones. I have chosen to have just a few, deep, intense friendships….rather than have a long list of people with whom I spend a lot of time. Oh, I like being liked, but I like liking much more.
I'm still learning about relationships. Relationships should be a freeing experience rather than enslavement. They should be an energy-giver, rather than an energy-drainer. It should be that the person or persons you're with enrich you and you enrich them. You shouldn't approach relationships with a sense of need. I think if you are looking at your friend or partner to fulfill you as a human being, you're in trouble.
Real friends are those who, when you have made a fool of yourself,
don't feel that you've done a permanent job.
It is one of the blessings of old, good friends,
that you can afford to be stupid with them.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
People who like others are people others like.
When a friend deals with a friend,
let the bargain be clear and well penned so they may continue friends to the end.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
If you don't like someone:
….the way they hold their spoon can make you furious.
If you do like them:
….they can turn their plate over into your lap and you won't mind.
Be slow in choosing a friend….even slower in changing.
Friendship is almost always the union of a part of one mind with a part of another:
People are friends in spots.
Fine friendship requires duration rather than fitful intensity.
The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.
Our friends are people who know all about us and still like us.
Only your friends will tell you when your face is dirty.
We have fewer friends than we imagine….but more than we know.
Do not expect all friendships to last forever.
Do not keep on with a mockery of friendship after the substance is gone
….but part, while you can part friends.
I want to appreciate you without judging.
Join you without invading.
Invite you without demanding.
Leave you without guilt.
Some of the most rewarding and beautiful moments of a friendship
happen in the unforeseen open spaces between planned activities.
It is important that you allow these spaces to exist
….in fact, look for them.
It is not so much our friends' help that helps us
….as the confident knowledge that they will help us.
If a friend is in trouble, don’t annoy them by asking if there is anything you can do. Think up something appropriate and offer to do it.
Ah, how good it feels!
The hand of an old friend.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Often we devote too little time to our friends….and to much time to our enemies.
improves happiness and abates misery
by doubling our joys and dividing our grief.
If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make,
who would you call and what would you say?
And why are you waiting?