The Wisdoms Project


One of life’s really important words.  One of the few things in life that I can control completely, regardless of my situation, health, wealth, weather, whatever.  I control my state of mind.  Me.  No one else.  Oh, the events around me can be negative, but I choose how I let those events affect me.  And much more often that not, I choose to be in the positive, more enjoyable state of mind than to dwell in the house of the negative for very long.

It isn't what happens.  
It's how you deal with it.

I had cancer.
But it didn’t have me.
Now, I have a heart condition.
But it doesn’t have me either.

Suffering isn’t ennobling….but recovery is.
Christian Barnard

  I can complain because the rosebush has thorns
                 ....or I can rejoice because the thorn bush has roses.

Some people see the glass as half-empty.
Some see the glass as half-full.
I see the glass as not big enough.

Life is what we make it....and the world is what we make it. The eyes of the cheerful person and the eyes of the melancholy person can look upon the same creation....but very different are the aspects which it bears to each of them.
Albert Pike

Two competing shoe salespeople find themselves in a rustic, backward part of the world. The first salesperson wires back to the head office: “There is no prospect of sales here. Locals do not wear shoes.” The other salesperson wires: “No one wears shoes here. We can dominate the market. Send all possible stock immediately!”
Akio Morita

Challenges can be stepping stones or they can be stumbling blocks.
It's all a matter of how you view them.

If you can't change the facts, try changing your attitude.

You're only young once.  How long that once lasts is up to you.

Age is a question of spirit.
Youth is the best part of life no matter how numerous its years.
Virginia Church

                                       Although fate presents the circumstances
                                  how you react depends on your character.

I've never been poor, only broke.
Being poor is a frame of mind.
Being broke is only a temporary situation.
Mike Todd

                    Dance Like Nobody’s Watching

Peter was the kind of guy who was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say.  When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins.”  He was a natural motivator.  If you were having a bad day, Peter was there telling you how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Peter and asked him, “I don’t get it!  You can’t be a positive person all of the time.  How do you do it?”  Peter replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, ‘Peter, you have two choices today.  You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.’  I choose to be in a good mood.  Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it.  I choose to learn from it.  Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life.  I choose the positive side of life.”

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.  “Yes, it is,” Peter said.  “Life is all about choices.  When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice.  You choose how you react to situations.  You choose how people will affect your mood.  You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood.  The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

Several years later, I heard that Peter was shot when someone robbed him.  After eight hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Peter was released from the hospital.   I saw Peter about six months later.  

When I asked him how he was, he said, “If I were any better, I’d be twins.  Wanna see my scars?”  I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place.  Peter replied, “As I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die.  I chose to live.”  “Weren’t you scared?  Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.  Peter continued, “The paramedics were great.  They kept telling me I was going to be fine.  But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.  In their eyes, I read, ‘He’s a dead man.’  I knew I needed to take action.”  “What did you do?” I asked.  “Well, when the nurse asked if I was allergic to anything, I replied, Yes, bullets.”  The doctors and nurses stopped working.  Over their laughter, I told them that I was choosing to live and to operate on me as if I am alive, not dead.”

Peter lived thanks to the skill of his doctors and nurses, but also because of his amazing attitude.  I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully.  Attitude, after all, is everything.

Work like you don’t need the money. Love like you’ve never been hurt. Dance like nobody’s watching.

The biggest mistake you can make in your career
is to believe that you work for someone else.

Choose your rut carefully. You might be in it for a long time.

Most of the time I don't have any fun.
The rest of the time I don't have any fun at all.
Woody Allen

Start every day off with a smile and get it over with.
    W. C. Fields

Take care that the face which looks out from the mirror in the morning is a pleasant face. You may not see it again all day, but others will.

The world is a looking glass and gives back to every person the reflection of their own face. Frown at it and it will in turn, look sourly upon you….laugh at it and with it and it is a jolly, kind companion.
William Makepeace Thackeray

Don't let the seeds spoil your enjoyment of a watermelon.
Just spit the seeds out.

Good thoughts usually bear good fruit;
bad thoughts usually bear bad fruit
….and you are your own gardener.

One is never as fortunate or as unfortunate as one imagines.
Francois de la Rochefoucauld

The forest will answer you in the way you call to it.
    Finnish Proverb

Sunrise is delicious, rain is refreshing, wind braces us up, snow is exhilarating. There is really no such thing as bad weather....only different kinds of good weather.
John Ruskin

There is no such thing as bad weather….only inappropriate clothing.
Ranulph Fiennes

              Wherever you go….no matter what the weather….always bring your own sunshine.
Anthony D’Angelo   

             Some people walk in the rain.  Others just get wet.
    Roger Miller

It matters not how strait the gate, how charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate.
I am the captain of my soul.
W.E. Henley

Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the
planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds
and their feet on the ground.  Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to
leave this world better than when you found it.
Wilferd Peterson

T-Shirt Wisdom

Just because I’m moody
doesn’t mean that you are not irritating.

I want to be Barbie.
That bitch has everything.

A positive attitude may not solve
all your problems, but it will annoy
enough people to make the effort worthwhile.

When my ship comes in, with my luck,
I’ll be at the airport.

Indecision may or may not be my problem.

E. Coli Happens!

What lies behind us and what lies before us
are small matters compared to
what lies within us.
Ralph Waldo Emerson

You cannot escape the results of your thoughts.  Whatever your present environment may be, you will fall, remain or rise with your thoughts, your vision, your ideal.  You will become as small as your controlling desire; as great as your dominant aspiration.
James Allen

   How to Win While You’re Losing
    ….or How to Stay Young While You’re Growing Old.

1.  Look your troubles in the eye.  Problems not faced do not go away.  Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs.  Anticipate each dip and prepare for them.

2.  Never say you can’t....but do say you won’t.  Neither be so discouraged that you quit, nor so stubborn that you won’t stop.  Troubles come sooner and last longer for those who wear themselves out.

3.  For whatever you can no longer do, substitute something else.  There is nothing more refreshing than a good nap, as long as it’s followed by waking up.  Find a way to slow down without stopping.

4.  Don’t hide.  If you want your special needs attended to, you have to make them known.  Do not be ashamed of your limitations.

5.  Claim your rights and privileges....such as the right to refuse to eat more, the privilege of resting and pacing your activities, the right to assistance, the privilege of cutting back on your work, and so on.

6.  Be humble enough to accept help and proud enough to ask for it.  Do not be ashamed to ask for what you need.  Accept help graciously.

7.  Always offer a helping hand and a comforting ear.  Stay interested in the world around you.  Concern for others lightens your own concerns.

8.  Put anger, sadness and regret behind you.  It’s perfectly OK to feel anger at the pain and distress of growing old.  It isn’t OK to stay angry.  It’s perfectly OK to mourn the closing of chapters in your life.  It isn’t OK to mourn the rest of your life.

9.  Always look for the bright side.  We win or lose by how we interpret and react to everything that happens.  Winning is rejoicing in what you have left.  Losing is seeing only what you have lost.

10.  Enjoy what each day brings.  Be open with wonder and excitement to new experiences, even those that come with decline.  Enjoy the ride down, even when you know there is no going back up.
Robert Ronald

The greatest discovery of any generation is that human beings
can alter their lives by altering their attitudes.
William James

Every tomorrow has two handles.
You can take hold of the handle of anxiety or the handle of enthusiasm.
Upon your choice so will be the day.

The longer I live the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts.

Attitude is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. Attitude is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. Attitude will make or break a company….a home….a relationship….a person.
The remarkable thing is we have a chance every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude.
I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes.
Charles Swendoll

Whether you think you can or think you can't….you're right.
                          Henry Ford

Most people are about as happy as they have made up their minds to be.
    Abraham Lincoln

Pain is inevitable.  Suffering is optional.

The path to cheerfulness is to sit up cheerfully and act and speak as if cheerfulness was already here. To be brave, act as if you are brave. Use all your will to that end, and courage will very likely replace fear. If we act as if we have good feeling, the bad feeling soon folds its tent and silently steals away.
William James

You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head,
but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair.
Chinese Proverb

Self-pity in its early stages is as snug as a feather mattress.
Only when it goes on and hardens does it become uncomfortable.

Superior achievement, or making the most of one's capabilities, is to a very considerable degree a matter of habit. That was the reason that Joe and I used to say to our children, “We don't want any losers around here. In this family, we want winners.” They were encouraged to be winners, leaders and victors in whatever they set their hand develop the habit of winning.
 Rose Fitzgerald Kennedy

Peace is not absence of conflict,
but the ability to cope with conflict.

There are times that I wish the world would sit down and write out their thoughts. Perhaps we would all see that life has a lot of disappointment, sadness, tragedy and failed dreams. Yet the reverse side of these situations, if really looked at, provides that despite these negative events, there is always the opportunity for joy. The joy of overcoming disappointment. The joy of realizing that sadness is quite often made of our own doing and if not, that it is often caused by circumstances beyond our control and that we can learn from the results. We often perceive a failed dream as a tragedy. We rarely consider that we had the courage to dream in the first place. Without making the attempt to be happy there is no possible failure and that is the biggest failure of all.
J. Edward Ortiz

In all fairness, if we ask the “why me?” question in regard to our burdens, we should also ask it in regard to our blessings.

We take for granted one hundred days of perfect health….and then we grumble about one day of aches and pains.

We drive the freeway hundreds of times without incident….and then ask “why me?” the one time we have a flat tire or engine trouble.

How often do we say “why me?”
                         ….as we count our blessings?

Rather than feeling sad about what we don’t have, doesn’t it make more sense to feel a kind of rollicking rejoicing over everything we do have?!
Dale E. Turner

                     Finish each day and be done with it.

                           You have done what you could.
                                    Some blunders and absurdities may have crept in.
                                                Forget them as soon as you can.
                                                       Tomorrow is a new day.
                                            You shall begin it serenely and with too
                                high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.
          This day is all that is good and fair.  It is too dear, with it’s hopes and invitations,
                                                 to waste a moment on yesterdays.
Ralph Waldo Emerson